De-cluttering

Ok, so my goal when I woke up this morning was not to de-clutter my life. Really, I promise.

That’s mostly because I hate to clean.

But last night, something made me sad.

See this?

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Tobin and I bought this little travel cribbage board at a tiny beach shop in Santa Barbara, CA, on our first anniversary trip. We both liked to play and only had a bigger board that really shouldn’t be hauled everywhere we went.

We paid around $4 for it, put our initials on the back of it, and had

Absolutely. No. Idea.

the history that this tiny, $4 board would make.

We took it all over the world with us.

That cribbage board has been in more Starbucks than you have, probably. :) It’s been on the sand of Camps Bay Beach in Cape Town, South Africa. We always took it with us to a little, tiny hole-in-the-wall restaurant on Jl.

Cimbeleuit close to our first house in Indo where we’d go for noodles, strawberry juice, and fried ice cream. We played it in a little cafe in Amsterdam that served probably the best pastry I’ve ever had in my life. It’s been in countless airports (oh, wait I counted them!) as we passed hours upon hours of waiting for flights. It’s been the cause of a few arguments when one of us whomped the other in a skunked game.

It’s even made its rounds during the last year here in Illinois…during those first lonely weekends when we just had each other, we’d go find a Starbucks or Caribou and play cribbage while Mae napped.

It’s special. It’s a piece of us…and last night, we realized it was gone.

And while it’s just a thing, losing it hurt.

More than we admitted to each other.

Our first reaction was…it’s almost like this is, strangely, the way it should be. After being a “friend” as we traveled the globe, it figures that we’d lose it the week after we bought a house!

Our only inkling of where it might be was possibly in one of my purses.

Which is really not helpful if you know how often I switch the bag I’m carrying. But after looking everywhere ELSE, I knew what I needed to do.

Clean out the purse closet.

Glory be…you really have no idea the task that I undertook when I started this today.

I will not show you any pictures.

I will not tell you how many purses I cleaned out.

I will not even tell you about the things I found in some of them because…and I was joking about this with a friend through texting tonight…I think I might need therapy after the rawness of my emotions at seeing some of the things that had found their way into the hidden nooks in those bags.

Some of those things had me in tears, especially the goodbye notes I found from friends when I left Indonesia. (Definitely worth finding…but, nothing like a good cry.)

I cleaned purse after

purse, bag after bag.

I made three piles

: the I-don’t-care pile; the I-care-enough-to-give-away-to-someone-I-love pile, and the either I-use-and-or-like-this-bag Β or I’m-not-ready-to-sever-the-emotional-ties-with-this-bag pile. The last pile is the one that is still hanging in the newly cleaned purse closet. :)

And you’ll be happy to know that the first two piles make up at least half of my former bag/purse collection.

Friends, we are making progress.

So, if you need a bag/purse and have an idea what you want, chances are I probably have it and am willing to give it to you. Seriously. :)

And part of me knows that I’m really not done sorting through all of my purses. I just can’t get rid of them all at once…but it is a start.

And I’ll take it.

Oh, and I almost forgot.

I found the cribbage board. In the

Very. Last. Purse.

πŸ˜€

Sig

Tonight…

w e w

ent out on a family date to On the Border.

Usually our “family dates” consist of the Sonic Drive-Thru, or if we’re really feeling brave, we sit in our car an eat ice cream!

The big time, I know.

After our slightly-less-than-romantic anniversary dinner on Wednesday, I think Tobin and I were both wanting to go some plac

e we knew

we liked.

The problem is, we took Mae.

And don’t get me wrong…I have the most wonderful daughter ever. I love that girl.

But taking her to dinner with us

? To a sit-down-and-order-and-wait-for-your-food place

?

Um, yeah.

So she actually wasn’t too bad before the food came, other than semi-consistently letting out the new high-pitched squeal she has discovered.

(It’s not cute…it’s ear-splitting.)

When Mae’s taco (with extra tomatoes…very important) came, we cut it up and gave it to her. She loves tacos (and tomatoes).

What did she do

?

Started throwing…not dropping…it all over.

Then we tried rice.

Even worse.

It was the most un-peaceful meal we’ve had in a long time.

Not sure what was up with her or her lack of On The Border lovin’.

MY tacos were good.

:) And Tobin’s burrito was the size of Texas. Close, anyway.

But there must’ve been something not quite so wonderful about Maelie’s dinner.

I w as frustr

ated a bit at the time, but it IS a memory.

That toothy, silly, ornery grin she would flash as she pitched the rice here and there… was kinda cute.

And she does make me smile…and make me thankful to be her mommy.

I just don’t think we’ll be taking her back to On the Border anytime soon. πŸ˜‰

Sig

Random (and Tired) Saturday

–Slept ’til 8. That never happens, mostly because the girl doesn’t usually sleep that late!

Still tired when I woke up.

–Went to farmer’s m arket with

a friend. Still tired.

–Gr abbed

a coffee on the way home.

Still tired.

Seeing a theme here?! πŸ˜‰

–Fed Maelie a snack and put her down for a nap.

She talked for an hour in her crib and then slept for two.

–While she slept, I took a n

ap.

Woke up (still) tired.

–Tobin made pancakes and sausage for our very late lunch. (I could tell you that I was tired, but I think you already know that!)

–Went to run a couple errands with Tobin and Maelie.

( Bought cute, super-cheap purple sunglasses for me and a few shirts for Mae for next summer.

I love end-of-the-season clearance!)

–Came home, boxed up FOUR boxes of Maelie’s clothes and picked up her nursery, played with

her a bit, and then made pizza for dinner.

(NOT frozen. Just wanted you to know I did cook a little today!)

–Took a walk down the street to a friend’s house and then walked home. Eyelids drooping.

–Ran over to Judson to drop something off. (Eyelids still drooping.)

–Sitting on couch blogging…and ready for bed.

–It’s 8:30 p.m. and I am going to hit the hay. It is possible that I will get more sleep tonight than I’ve had since…oh, 2004. :)

G’nite!

Sig

Little Blessings (Pt. 4)

:) A cooler, overcast day and a walk to the park with my girl.

:) Drinking coffee with a friend

using my Indonesia Starbucks mugs.

I love the stories that come with each of them.

:) Owning the Rodgers and Hammerstein musical DVD collection. I am so watching South Pacific tonight…and belting out all of the songs. Just ‘ cause I can.

πŸ˜‰

:) A family

date to Sonic.

Mmmmm. I had a Lemonberry Creamslush, just in case you’re wondering.

:) Running further than I have in awhile this morning

and NOT feeling like I was gonna die.

Love progress.

:) Getting a free pi

ano through a connection of couple friends. Oh, how I have missed playing…and oh how much I love music.

:) Watching my girl push her shopping cart all over the house while giggling this morning.

:) Celebrating nine years with my hubby and (both) being able to laugh about the date we had that didn’t quite turn out like we expected.

I’m thankful for laughter.

:) Um…buying a dress today? That would mean Mel actually found one that looks good on her. More progress.

:) Crazy dogs who are so full of life that they almost knocked me over (but didn’t) tonight. Thankful for their energy but not for the huge bruise on my ankle.

:) Looking forward to the Farmer’s Market tomorrow morning and spending time with a friend.

:) A weekend stretching out ahead of us to spend together as a family.

Sig

I May Never Fly Delta Again…

Tobin and I have hoped for a couple of months that we’d be able to take a trip back to Indonesia this fall.

We’ ve got tons of miles sa

ved up from the trips we made between there and here during our years overseas.

But apparently not enough.

After three separate (and extremely long) phone calls to Delta, we’ve pretty much got to give up the dream of going back.

The guy I talked to toda

y was by far the nicest representative so far, but the things he told me made me so frustrated with the whole “let’s-use-miles” thing.

Did you know…

  • that you can’t use your miles and pay the difference for a flight?
  • that buying miles is insanely expensive

    ? Something around $600 for 20,000 miles. If a flight costs 120,000 miles, well… you do the math.

  • that even though the most expensive flight to Southeast Asia listed on their site is 120,000 miles, I was quoted both 135,000 and 175,000 miles today?
  • that apparently “low” season is nonexisten

    t?

  • that the rep said, “Well, why don’t you just buy your tickets and accumulate more miles?” Because we all have money for that, sir.

I’m so frustrated, and maybe for selfish reasons.

I wanted to take my little girl back to our second home.

I wanted our pembantu to have a picture with her instead of just a picture of her. I wanted my students to meet Maelie, and I wanted to hug them,

too. I’ve missed them. I wanted to go back to the place I so hastily left sixteen months ago and say a real goodbye.

I’m not exactly sure why it’s ok to post rates on a website that aren’t accurate. Or why it’s ok to advertise that you can use your miles when, in reality, it’s next to impossible.

I’m not sure I’m going to fly Delta again…EVER.

Unless we can actually use all those miles someday.

Thanks for letting me vent… and be a little dramatic.

:)

I’ll try to be more pleasant tomorrow.

Sig

Awesome

I had a few thoughts to share tonight…and then my hubby walked up the stairs to bring me

something.

I needed? Toilet paper. πŸ˜‰

This? Is what he brought me.

It HAD to be my blog post tonight.

Goodness, can she GET any cuter

?

Sig

You (I) Had a Bad Day

Because you had a bad day, you’re taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don’t know, you tell me don’t lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day, the camera don’t lie
You’re coming back down and you really don’t mind
You had a bad day, you had a bad

day.

“Bad Day”, Daniel Powter

So this song isn’t my typical style of music, though it pretty much sums up

my day.

In fact, as I was reading through the lyrics, I found myself singing along and having American Idol flashbacks.

(Did anyone else watch that season?)

It was just one of those certifiable, bury-my-head-in-the-sand days.

I suppose we’re allowed them once in awhile.

I’ll avoid the drama of the day and leave you with the theme song to my Saturday… feel free to grab a hairbrush and rock out.

(If Tobin wasn’t sitting here, I probably would!) πŸ˜‰

 

Sig

Life in Pictures

Well, at least the last two weeks of life.

:)

My birthday daisies from a sweet friend.

Aren’t they gorgeous?!

A visit with some of our favorite Indonesia friends…such good times.

Magnums…now available in the U.S.!!! Enough said.

Maelie tries to share her bottle with the sheep at the petting zoo. Haha!

Mae and Kris… I seriously smile when

I look at this.

What a fun memory.

Swinging with one of her favorite people… I just love this picture.

Sig

A Bit of Everything

It’s just been a little-of-everything kind of day.

You know, the kind that starts with an early morning run requiring me to get up before six. By choice. What’s wrong with me? :)

Then it’s followed, literally, by one of the darkest mornings I’ve ever experienced. Storms, rain, thunder, lightning…and almost-blackness outside.

When I put Mae down for her morning nap, her nursery was completely dark…which I will admit helped speed up the falling asleep process.

So, no complaints.

Then it was just me for awhile…getting a few things done, catching up on a couple e-mails, writing a bit, watching half of Raising Helen, which is one of those movies that makes me laugh and cry repeatedly throughout. It was a good movie for today.

Mae took a good nap, and then it was time for lunch and a game of “Let’s-Get-Into-Everything”. It’s her favorite game. :) Today she discovered Uno cards, the stepladder, the fact that the kitchen drawers pull out, and that she can see her reflection in the oven door. She also tried to climb into (?) the dishwas her, but I

herded her out of there quickly.

We played and read books and played some more. And while I ate the last few pancakes for lunch, she came and stood by my knees, waiting for me to give her bites. I…ahem…think she may have learned this from the dogs.

I should probably not

indulge it. However, it was cute.

And funny. And passed some of the calories on to her instead of letting them go into me.

I decided we should try for two naps today since Mae was up very early this morning, and she agreed.

Nap 2 was a success and gave me a bit of time to do some more things.

Tobin came home early, and I left at five to go get a haircut.

A desperately needed one.

You know how I’ve been growing out my hair?

Ooops…well, so much for that! πŸ˜€ She took a good two inches off the back today…which, for a normal person, is not a lot, but when you’re me…it’ s a lot.

Yay for a haircut! I decided that summer is about the worst time to ever try growing out my hair. Maybe this winter… or maybe not.

I came home just as the refrigerator repair guy was finishing up…yep, things just keep breaking.

Mae played for awhile, had her bottle, and then went quietly to bed…that’s kinda rare.

I tried to call Delta to check on some tickets we’re gonna need soon :) but their phone lines were closed already so we played frisbee til it was too dark to see. I strummed my guitar and sang a few songs on the back porch, and now I’m hanging out here, soaking up every ounce of my life.

I’m so blessed.

Tomorrow is park day…AND closing day.

Can you believe it?!

So. Blessed.

Sig

Little Blessings (Pt. 3)

:) A beautiful, sunny day that was NOT in the 90’s.

:) Taking Mae to the pool for the first time, and watching her love it.

And I do mean L.O.V.E. it.

:) Sharing a sno c one with her

on the above outing.

It was her first one, and I believe there was more L.O.V.E.

:) Being reminded, through other friends’ experiences and losses, that God’s ways

are perfect.

:) Birthday daisies that still look beautiful (mostly) a week later.

:) A good, solid hour of working on the book tonight… I love being productive.

:) A bit of anxiety, but also peace, as we wait (and hope!) for the closing on the house that should happen on Thursday.

:) A slight sunburn… is that a blessing

? Um… no, not really.

I’m just choosing to see it that way.

:)

:) Seeing the body of Christ surround my brother-in-law and sister-in-law in prayer as they watched their nine-day-old son have heart surgery today.

PRAISE GOD…the surgery went well, and Baby Nolan is recovering.

:) Taking a situation I found frustrating and being able to examine my own heart through it.

:) Cooking dinner two nights in a row.

:) Blogging by the light of white Christmas lights strung around our back porch.

(My hubby is SO cool!)

:) Cheez-Its and peanut butter.

Mmmmm.

:) Magnum ice cream bars which they NOW sell in the U.S. Hallelujah! (Go find them…seriously. They’re life-changing.)

Sig