Coffee For Your Heart: You’re Not Alone

Yesterday morning was not my favorite.

Days that involve trips to the Women’s Health Center at a nearby hospital for follow up on what seems to be a never-ending issue don’t generally rank up there at the top.

To say I was in a bad mood might just be scratching the surface.

And even Monday was just not good.

It didn’t help that I was cold because…well, because I live in the U.S. (Is everyone here freezing their tails off? Pretty sure.) I was moody because I got to think all day about going to the doctor first thing Tuesday morning. I was snippy with my hubby and in a horrible mood when I went to work out with friends that night. (Really, I probably should have just stayed home and gone to bed.)

Honestly…I just felt so alone. It’s not like you can shoot into facebook-land a status like, Getting a mammo tomorrow…please pray?

Well, maybe some people would. No judgment on my end, but for me, it just seems too personal. (And, yet, here I write it on my blog.) 😉

But I did mention it to a few people, and they prayed for me. I felt a little better by the time I went to bed Monday night.

But then Tuesday morning came, and I felt defeated.

I put off getting up until the last possible second. My stomach was in knots and my mind was wandering to places it shouldn’t go. But I made myself put one foot in front of the other, and I even put on makeup.

And as I was applying the eyeliner, I heard my Voxer beep at me. It was a sweet, dreaming sister sending a message to let me know she was praying.

I sent a quick reply back, and my phone beeped again.

A text. Praying for you this morning. This time from a sweet friend.

I’m not alone. I’m notthe promise that came to my mind.

Somehow I made it to the appointment with time to spare. (Thankful for back roads.)

My technician was about the sweetest woman I’ve ever met in my life…so compassionate and caring. He knew I needed her.

And while the process wasn’t pleasant, it was the quickest mammogram I’ve had yet. In less than an hour, I was on my way home…No changes. See you in a year. (Which has now been switched to six months, but that’s for another day.)

(Still) Praise. Jesus.

I stopped at Starbucks for a drip brew with white chocolate to celebrate. :)

I got to send a few texts to friends…Things look ok…so thankful.

And looking back now brings tears to my eyes. What I had to do yesterday was almost my least favorite thing ever…and, yet, my Father met me in the most tangible way. With sweet, little reminders that I’m not on my own here…because I know that, but it’s always nice to be reminded.

He’s given me a community of women…friends, sisters…to walk this journey with.

Some days are full of sunshine and we laugh, joke, and share smiley faces.

Other days…well, they’re hard. There’s more rain than there is sunshine and we pass the (sometimes virtual) tissue box around the table and squeeze each others’ hands as we whisper prayers.

But we’re still not alone, and we cling to that.

I don’t know where you are today, friend, but know this. You’re not alone.

He’s got you, and so does this community. Don’t be afraid to grab a hand and join in…because we’re here. :)


I love my sweet friend, Holley‘s, new link-up! Her Coffee For Your Heart: 2014 Encouragement Challenge is just what it sounds like. Think of Wednesdays as that day where I just share some encouragement…and you can pretend that we’re sitting at a table over coffee, just sharing life. Sounds like a great way to spend Wednesdays in this space. :) I hope you’ll hop over and join us!




  1. Oh, Mel! I had no idea! And it’s probably not the sort of thing you felt comfortable advertising. So glad to know that you felt the love of community surrounding you! And now that I know….I’m praying. :-)

  2. I’m so encouraged how God provides what we need in those moments. And thankful for the eyes to recognize those places He met you! Thank you for sharing the ups and downs of your day and being vulnerable about your health struggle. Because even sharing that, invites others into your story who have been there, too. And reminds them they aren’t alone in it.

    Christy @ A Heartening Life

  3. This post.
    I’m so grateful that I clicked on your link.
    Thank you for pouring out your heart, Mel. I’m going through some health issues myself, and I don’t want to think of where I’d be, had people not been willing to pass the virtual tissues. You blessed my heart.

  4. Love you, girl! (((HUGS)))

  5. Amen, friend! Rejoicing with you and joining in in prayer, girl! So thankful for His love, and how He connects us and sends us messages and reminders just when we need them most!

    Love you!

  6. Being proactive with your health means empowerment, not defeat! Keep on it and do not relent! Way to show those mamms who’s boss! :-) You’ll be in my prayers.

  7. What a wonderful account of God loving you in just the way He knows you will hear it, notice it, receive it. He loves us so very much. I’m thankful for your encouraging news and the way the whole process became a living thanksgiving of remembrance here on your blog.

  8. Isn’t it just like our Father to meet all our concerns head on…reminding us that we are not alone! So glad to be in this community with you, Mel! much love!

  9. Girl you have a tribe who loves you and is praying for you. I am happy for the praise report and trusting that God will continue to pour out his love. LOVE YOU TONS!

    • Oh, girl, you bless me so much it brings tears to my eyes. I’m so, so thankful for this tribe of women…I feel so undeserving. God is so Good…SO Good! :) Love you, sweet friend!!!

  10. Thoughts for you, friend. In my own experience, the tests themselves aren’t so much what I’ve feared, but the results…because honestly I want life to turn out neat and tidy and I’d rather not have trouble, thank you. Sometimes what I want isn’t what I need. But thank goodness, we do trust in a sovereign God whose love and care for us extends beyond the problems. This has been on repeat at my house…hope you are encouraged today and glad things went much better than anticipated.

    • I would agree…and that’s such a good perspective. I knew the test would be painful, but the actual results were what made my stomach turn. A friend of mine has reminded me, often, that she chooses not to stress about things like that because there’s nothing she can do to change things. God’s plan is going to happen because He’s God…and His plan is good. (Something I need to remind myself of often!) Thank you for the sweet encouragement, friend. I smiled when I saw that you stopped by…thanks for blessing me today! :) (((hugs)))

  11. So glad you had people to encourage, lift you up and hold your heart even if it was shaking a bit. What would we do without those sweet women in our lives. Love you!

  12. Reminds me of Deuteronomy 31:8. He went before you to the mammogram, He chose the tech, and He was waiting there for you to arrive. He is so good. And that’s why I love Him so.

    Thanks for sharing. Visiting from Holley’s.

    • Thank you for your sweet encouragement, Amy…your words were like a giant hug today. So needed. :) Blessings to you and hugs back, too!

  13. Aww Mel, I pray you choose not to do it alone any time. You, too, are not alone. Other Believers are always ready to pray and walk with your sweet soul. I’ve been AWOL from blog reading … Life stuff, drawing closer up God, craziness of life getting to me. I’m glad I stopped by here today to say I’m praying for you.
    Blessings to you.

  14. Will be praying for continued positive results…I am so sorry you had a rough day but so glad that God met you where you were in a tangible way so that you knew you were not alone!!

  15. this post had me laughing about shooting a status out to facebook – “Getting a mammo tomorrow…” and by the way, a blog is way different than facebook. i get ya on that. facebook is like the conference room where everyone’s gathered, even people you don’t real well, and your blog is like the private office where only a few slip in. :)) but then, from chuckling, to batting at the tears because those little nuggets God sends to remind us of His love? oh, yes and YES!! how precious those are.

    there is nothing like the comfort of knowing we’re not alone!

    your post was a burst of wind in my fairly deflated feeling sails today, so thank you for opening your heart and sharing.

    i’m glad the test results were good. blessings to you in the journey, sister!

    • You are so sweet, friend…thank you for blessing me with your words and taking the time to read mine. Sending hugs to you today. Many blessings! :)

  16. Mel, your words are always so sweet, true, and transparent. I had a very scary experience with my mammogram recently. And in those moment it is so easy to feel alone. I’m so thankful for the love of a savior who reminds me I’m never alone, and for sweet friends who He works through to give me confirmation.
    I’m glad you are doing okay and are surrounded by so many who love you! Have a beautiful day, friend!

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