I’m not sure how to write these words. I don’t really want to, either…the past few days feel like they haven’t been real. But He keeps reminding me that the journey isn’t always an easy one, and some days there is heartache. The kind that physically hurts.
And so I share it because, now, this heartache is part of our story, too.
I’m no stranger to one line.
One single line, the kind on a test designed to show you two. Or a plus sign. Or something more than just one line.
And it’s not a secret that pregnancy has been a struggle for us. Years of trying, failing, and loss finally gave us the most precious gift in the world. A daughter. My sweet, heart-forever girl, Mae.
And we wanted more. We knew it would be hard, and it was.
So on that morning a few weeks ago, the one when the all-too-familiar, one-line was actually a plus sign, the tears of joy dripped.
Mae was going to be a big sister.
We were cautious. We knew the risks. I told a small handful of people because, well because I honestly am a horrible secret-keeper. But there’s also power when there are people praying.
In the waiting, I tried to live life well. In between the headaches and tiredness, life was good. I kept up with running and (mostly) kept up with Mae.
We were excited.
And that’s why I didn’t see Monday night coming at all.
I noticed a couple of spots, but they were light brown and small. And? I felt fine. So I went for my evening run with some friends, came home, and…oh. A few more spots. Still brown.
I said a prayer and went to bed. Everything seemed fine on Tuesday morning. I took it easy, skipped my run, caught up on a few things.
And then I went to the bathroom, and I screamed for Mae to grab my phone. T was home from work in 40 minutes, and we were on our way to the ER with a quick stop to leave Mae with a friend. I barely got through the door before the tears started to fall, and in broken sobs, I told the woman at the desk what was happening.
She got me in to see a doctor, but by then it was too late. We knew. Four hours of pokes and prods and tests only revealed what our hearts already knew.
Our baby was gone.
We held each other and cried. And then we went home and tried to breathe.
And breathing is where we are now.
There are moments when the pain is intense and there’s no way the tears can be stopped.
Other moments, I can laugh. It feels almost wrong…but maybe that’s God’s gift in the form of a four year-old girl who walks the line of silly and sweet. She doesn’t understand, and maybe we need that right now.
Sometimes I feel numb…that this isn’t me. Us. That we’re not walking this road again.
But for whatever reason…one that I may never understand…we are here.
Heartbroken but not without Hope. Devastated but clinging to Him. Trying to take the next step forward without crumbling.
The Lord gave…
He did. And though the tears slip, I still find a little smile when I look at the one pregnant belly picture I took. Really, it looks like I ate too much cake the night before (and I probably did) but that picture is a cherished memory of our sweet one. A sweet, sad smile comes when I remember whispered celebrations and squeals and hugs with a few close friends, even a few hush-hush conversations when no one else was around. I’m thankful I got to celebrate this precious life.
and He also took away.
We will miss this sweet one for the rest of our lives. The ache for Heaven seems so much more intense today than it did a few days ago. I keep wishing we could go back and that there was something we could do to change things, but there isn’t. And so we go on.
And we choose to bless His Name anyway.
We love you, sweet baby S…we couldn’t wait to meet you. And now, instead, our hearts ache for the day when we will hold you. We’ll have a lifetime of cuddles to make up for.
Photo Credit: Lennart Tange
But I DID sneak this picture of my COFFEE. IN. THE. LOUNGE. (Hand slap.) 😉 
But there are also way too many times when I just avoid the mess.
I hope you’ll hop over and join us!
